Message Mishaps: Lessons in Communication from Real Estate Blunders

Lisa Naples, Berkshire Hathaway Homesale Realty • December 8, 2023

Have you ever sent a text or email only to realize as soon as you sent it that it went to the wrong person? I think it’s safe to assume that this has happened to most of us. I once sent a text to my daughter to tell her it’s time for bed. Except I sent it to a client instead. I hope they had a good laugh. Recently, on the same day, I received text messages from two separate clients with messages meant for their significant others. Thankfully, they were mundane messages and not embarrassing for either of us.


 Next, imagine you’re in the throes of a stressful situation with a client and you need to vent to someone. You text a friend to complain about your client, hit send, and then realize that you sent the message to your client. The message about your client was sent to your client instead of your friend. We’ve already established that it’s easy to send a text or email to the wrong person. How do you recover from this?


PAR hosted a webinar in October titled “Best of the Legal Hotline: And They Got Caught!”. This was a compilation of several actual and recent cases where agents were subject to disciplinary decisions by the Pennsylvania State Real Estate Commission for various acts of poor conduct.


 Case 7 was about a Salesperson who accidentally emailed the buyers about the buyers when the Salesperson intended to send it to another agent. The Salesperson wrote in the email that they were hoping the buyers were homeless for months since they were difficult in the sale. The buyers requested that the agent withdraw from the transaction. The Salesperson was fined $1,000 plus $590.29 in investigation costs, and they were assigned 10 hours of CE courses on ethics.



It’s a warning to all of us to not become an idiot when we’re stressed out. This business is stressful and some clients will be very frustrating to work with. Figure out how to deal with it without putting yourself in a position where your words will haunt you and jeopardize your career.


Case 8 involved texts mistakenly sent to a client. The agent sent 2 texts to clients trying to schedule an appraiser visit. Then sent 2 more texts, including racial slurs clearly directed at the client. The agent had meant to send these to a friend. The Broker fired the agent and released the client/sellers from their contract. The agent was handed a $4,000 fine plus $485.04 in investigation costs. They were given a 3 year license suspension that was immediately stayed in favor of probation, meaning the agent will be on probation for 3 years. They were also assigned remedial education as a term of the probation, to include the courses “NAR At Home With Diversity” and “NAR Fairhaven”.


I think this agent got off light. The moral of this story is not to suggest that agents shouldn’t put their racial slurs in writing. If you have the impulse to demean your clients with racial slurs, you have a lot more work to do than taking those two NAR courses. You have no business doing this business. The moral of this story is that there are real world ramifications to what can be a brief lapse of judgement, a short fuse, a minor complaint. When sent to the wrong person, it can cost you your license, and depending on what was said, it should.


You should know that you will invariably get frustrated by the decisions and behaviors of some clients. It’s part of the job. Sending a text or email in the heat of the moment to vent to someone could backfire in a big way if you mistakenly send your rant to the wrong person. In summary, these real-life examples underscore the importance of careful communication in real estate, cautioning agents to be mindful of their messages to prevent unintended professional ramifications.



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Reverse Mortgage
By Wayne Angelo & Megan Brogna – CrossCountry Mortgage July 31, 2026
Most people think of a reverse mortgage as a way for homeowners to access the equity they've built in their current home. While that's certainly true, many Realtors are surprised to learn that a reverse mortgage can also be used to purchase a new home. What Is a Reverse Mortgage? A reverse mortgage, also known as a Home Equity Conversion Mortgage (HECM), is an FHA-insured loan available to homeowners age 62 and older. Instead of making monthly mortgage payments, eligible borrowers can use a portion of their home's equity to eliminate an existing mortgage, establish a line of credit, receive monthly payments, or simply improve cash flow. Borrowers remain responsible for paying property taxes, homeowners' insurance, maintaining the home, and continuing to occupy it as their primary residence. What Is a Reverse Mortgage for Purchase? A HECM for Purchase allows qualified buyers age 55 and older to purchase a new primary residence using a substantial down payment and a reverse mortgage—without the obligation of monthly principal and interest payments.* This program can be an excellent solution for: Buyers looking to downsize. Retirees relocating closer to family. Homeowners moving into a 55+ community. Clients seeking a home that better fits their retirement lifestyle. Buyers who want to preserve more of their retirement savings or investment assets. Instead of paying all cash for a home, buyers can finance part of the purchase through a reverse mortgage, allowing them to keep more of their liquid assets available for future needs. Why Realtors Should Know About This Program A Reverse Mortgage for Purchase can help clients: Increase purchasing power. Improve monthly cash flow. Preserve retirement savings. Purchase a home that better meets their long-term needs. Age in place more comfortably. For many older buyers, this financing option can make the difference between settling for a home and purchasing the one that truly fits their retirement goals. If you work with clients who are 55 or older, a Reverse Mortgage for Purchase may be worth exploring before they write an offer. *Borrowers must continue to pay property taxes, homeowners insurance, maintain the property, and occupy the home as their primary residence. The amount available depends on factors including the youngest borrower's age, current interest rates, and the home's value. Facts, opinions and information expressed in the Blog represent the work of the author and are believed to be accurate but are not guaranteed. The Lancaster County Association of Realtors is not liable for any potential errors, omissions or outdated information. If errors are noted within a post, please notify the Association. Posts represent the author's opinion and are not necessarily the opinion of the Association.
Mid Year Check In Realtor Calendar
By Missy Boots – Realty One Group Unlimited July 17, 2026
Whew! If you're anything like me, you blinked and somehow July is already halfway over. That also means we've officially crossed the halfway mark of the year. How’s business treating you? Maybe your year is right on track; if so - congrats! If you're holding your breath waiting for your transaction numbers to suddenly align with the goals you set in January, it's time to stop waiting and start resetting. It’s never too late! The beauty of this business is that January doesn't have a monopoly on fresh starts. In real estate, momentum can change surprisingly quickly. One listing can become three referrals. One conversation can lead to a transaction. The second half of the year has the potential to look completely different from the first. The key isn't wishing for a better year. It's changing what you do next. One of the most important mindset shifts an agent can make is to treat their business like a business. Business owners don't simply hope for better results. They create a plan, track meaningful metrics, review what's working, and adjust when needed. Your real estate business deserves the same level of intention. When you start thinking like the CEO of your business instead of just the salesperson in it, your daily decisions begin to change, and so do your results. So where to start? Ask yourself: How many meaningful conversations am I having each week? How consistently am I following up with past clients and leads? Am I asking for referrals? Am I visible in my community and online? Am I blocking time every day for lead generation? Many of us focus on results we can't control: closings, commission checks, or contracts signed. Instead, focus on the activities that create those results. Results lag behind consistent action. If you improve the actions, the numbers usually follow. Choose one or two meaningful goals for the next 3 months. Then identify the handful of weekly actions that move those goals forward. For example: Reach out to 5 people a day. Schedule three coffee meetings with your sphere. Host one open house every weekend. Post valuable content three times a week. Write five handwritten notes every Friday. Consistency beats intensity every time. Your calendar tells the truth. Look back at the last two weeks. How much time was spent on activities that directly grow your business? Admin work is necessary, but revenue producing activities deserve protected time on your calendar. While time blocking is considered a “bad” word to many, being in control of your time allows you to control your business. Schedule lead generation before you schedule anything else. Pick an accountability partner and share your weekly action plan with each other. Commit to checking in regularly and holding one another accountable for following through. Celebrate the wins along the way. When you accomplish the actions you set out to complete, reward yourself, even if it’s just an iced coffee with your accountability partner. Above all, don’t let a negative mind set deter you from forward momentum. Start small. Do the work. Finish big. Here’s to a successful 2026! "Success looks a lot like failure up until the moment you break through the finish line." – Dan Waldschmid “Today is always the most productive day of your week." – Mark Hunter
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By Joseph Gonzalez with ReMax Evolved August 7, 2026
Another real estate agent once asked: What would you prefer discipline or motivation? In any world where you work off commission and not hourly pay, it's very important to understand this: motivation is a great thing to have but what surpasses motivation is discipline. Motivation brings ambition, eagerness and energy. But discipline is what keeps you moving even when you don't feel like it. When you're disciplined, you understand that no matter how you feel, the work still gets done because you know what it takes to grow your business. It's no longer about whether you want to do it it's about knowing that you have to do it. Motivation is a simple spark. It gets you started. But once that spark fades, progress often slows down or comes to a complete stop. Discipline on the other hand carries you forward even when motivation is gone. That being said, when you're disciplined and motivated with discipline leading you should always remember to reward yourself for your accomplishments, even if you didn't fully reach your original goal. Rome wasn't built in a day, and consistent small steps forward will eventually take you exactly where you want to be. Growth doesn't happen overnight. Something I'd love to leave you with is this: Everything around you that you're touching or seeing was once just a thought in someone's mind. The cup in front of you. The shirt on your back. The door, the hinges, the desk. All of it started as an idea until someone took action and made it real. If you ever feel discouraged thinking, "There are already 100 people doing this" take a walk down the bread aisle at the grocery store. Look at how many bread companies exist and yet another one still decided to make bread. Finally, surround yourself with people who encourage you and believe in your goals. You are far more likely to succeed when you're around people who support your vision, rather than those who downplay it and say, "I don't think you can make that happen." Stay positive. Stay strong. Stay disciplined. It will happen. The seeds will come to fruition.
August 7, 2026
Meet Jennifer Jarvis, co-founder of Lancaster Snow Angels. She has as simple request. If you are aware of anyone in your sphere — clients, friends, or family members — who may have gently used snow removal or lawn care equipment (such as shovels, snow blowers, or lawn mowers) they no longer need, please consider encouraging them to donate those items. Meet Jennifer Jarvis, co-founder of Lancaster Snow Angels. She has as simple request. If you are aware of anyone in your sphere — clients, friends, or family members — who may have gently used snow removal or lawn care equipment (such as shovels, snow blowers, or lawn mowers) they no longer need, please consider encouraging them to donate those items. What is Lancaster Snow Angels? Lancaster Snow Angels is a registered 501(c)3 that started as a grassroots movement in 2020. Their philosophy is simple: kindness is the best form of humanity. After being laid off during the COVID shutdown, Jennifer and her husband wanted to make good use of their time. They decided to help their community, along with co-founder Mike Schmelder — shoveling snow for those in dire need of assistance, including the elderly, disabled, and veterans. Now in their 6th snow season, Lancaster Snow Angels has grown to 40 snow volunteers and 60 organization supporters. They field calls nearly every day from community members looking for assistance, and currently serve between 185 and 200 people on their established client list. As their work has expanded, so have their services — from lawn care to even installing window A/C units. In effect, they are being a good neighbor to those who need one. Interested in Helping? Lancaster Snow Angels is currently hosting fundraising raffles. Check out their website and social media for more information and additional ways to get involved. Website: www.lancastersnowangels.org/aboutus Facebook: facebook.com/LancSnowAngels